As I mentioned in my last post on death and dying, I’m exploring some key beliefs about life that keep us in fear of death and prevent us from living full, abundant lives.
Like all other living beings, we’re designed from the oneness of Source to experience the individuality of our 3D life form and then return to the oneness once again through the dying process.
The death and dying journey of returning to oneness is a totally natural and organic process, but we fear it because we don’t trust it or understand it. And the great human block standing in our way is the fear of losing our own uniqueness, which comes from our ego.
The Trouble with Ego
The uniqueness we fear losing is known as our “ego” and is housed within the consciousness of our third chakra—the Solar Plexus. Oftentimes when I do hospice or death work, I find the patient has difficulty shutting down energy in this chakra. The reason is we humans are very confused about our ego.
The lower three chakras of the human experience (which includes the Solar Plexus where our ego is housed) are designed to be “individual” and define us as a unique package of co-created Source energy. At the same time, our upper three chakras are designed to push us to transcend that individuality and recognize our oneness with the all. This push and pull between uniqueness and oneness often causes our confusion 🙂
An ego that’s fueled with love and is balanced knows how to embrace a healthy sense of individuality that’s connected to the whole, but most of us are operating on an imbalanced third chakra or ego fueled by fear. This imbalance can play out as an overinflated ego driven by control or the under-inflated “woe is me” victim program.
Most of humanity doesn’t even know how to honor the true design of the balanced ego by remembering we’re more than the first three chakras—remembering we’re also a oneness with Source, before we were born, while we are living and after we die. We continually fight for our individuality because we fear losing it.
During death, as well as throughout life, we’re terrified to lose our uniqueness. This is fueled by a fear-based belief of separation that directly affects how we navigate both living and dying.
In life, we sense this separation from our true self, which makes us continually yearn for “something or someone” that will fill us or complete us. We search to find connection and validation in a relationship, a job, a bank account. It’s the underlying battery drain to our joy-factor each and every day because we look for something separate from ourselves, but in reality the divine fuel of true connection comes from Source and oneness, not separation.
Separation is what causes our human existence to experience judgment, prejudice, and even wars. It’s what makes us believe we need to control everyone and everything in order to be safe.
Co-Creation, Not Separation
Our most common misconception as a human being is that we’re not part of life, or death, as an actual CO-creator. Our mind seems to tell us we can only control a life that is happening to us and all around us, but in truth that is an illusion of the brain.
Human beings are an instrument OF life, and experiment IN life, and a constant CO-creator of the all. When we change this belief, we will experience our death differently.
Right now, every human being and the planet itself is experiencing what is known as the Ascension Cycle, or the shift. This Ascension process means we’re energetically and consciously experiencing transcendence or higher energy frequencies without leaving our physical form as a human meat-body death. During this process, we’re learning how to live while dying because we are actually dying to how we are currently living.
Now is the time to examine ways to live and die differently—to give up our own ego-based individual identity, to open our minds and hearts to actually create another greater love-based individual identity that is BOTH collective and individual at the same time.
As I continue with this series, I encourage you to add your comments, concerns, or fears about death to get more of this conversation going.
Thank you Suzanne. I love these!
Thanks Melissa!!
My very gifted 7 year old granddaughter is currently working through her fears regarding death. She is fearing the idea of loved ones leaving her and also even worrying about death of animals and death of “the world” via asteroids ..etc. Trying to find ways to reassure her that death/dying is natural…she loves gardening so using examples of how plants go through the seasons and then die and then spring comes and you start over. Would love to know how to transform this “Fear” into Joy for Living rather than the “threat” that seems to hang over the “Life” of so many of us. Thank you for this series Suzanne..such a gift to those who read it. It would be interesting to know what change would happen if we were taught that we are all dying as soon as we are born…and that it is not a “horrible bad thing” but purely part of the circle.
Thanks Diana – and with how psychic she is it may also be a lot of old memories from past life – so it is important to keep he focused on how SAFE she is in THIS life in the very PRESENT MOMENT. At that age – I did “Five great things” with one of my kids each night – in fact we all did it at the dinner table quite often – and that helped to reasure the kids that we were SAFE, which is often the underlying fear anchor.
Thank you Suzanne. Past life issues is a very good point especially since it seems to be a really emotional trigger. I have always done “Best Things today” with the kids…didn’t consciously think of it relating to “feeling safe”. Great points.
Working on growth lately and both fear and ego have been popping up in my journaling and in my thinking a great deal lately. Then I saw your email and thought, there is a reason for this coincidence, of course I read your post and enjoyed it, but hoped it would shed additional insight on how to prevent our fear and our ego from shadowing our joy, our creativity, our generosity, our compassion, our understanding, and our spirit.
Next week’s meditation is on my calendar. Looking forward to another valuable session.
Thanks for sharing Linda — I always tell my clients to own both sides; joy and pain, fear and knowing, etc. You can own your fears by going INTO them, examine them for what they truly are because often times we are scared of the scared, so the goal is to examine them and then dis-assemble them – breaking them down allows the release. An old Blog I did on fear used a ball of twine as a metaphor….maybe check that out. When we GO IN to all aides of the emotions and own them fully, it gets easier. We will alwasy have the dualistic energy of both sides – and knowing that; staying open to both is important – then CHOOSE where to FOCUS your attention on as that bring more of what you want.
Two ex-students have died in the last two weeks. I have lost students before. What I have noticed this time is a shift in how I have processed their passings – one a tragic car accident and the other a suicide. I have felt sadness and I have cried, but I have not descended into the abyss (which I once would have done). I think my growing awareness and understanding of soul contracts, and of life in different realms, and knowing this is not the end have supported my sense of loss. It’s a significant change for me.
Tina – thanks SO MUCH for sharing this — that is exactly why I am writing so much on death right now is to possibly help share other ways to look at this. YES we will be sad (and have every right to be) but our grief can move differently when we are more aligned to the concepts of things like soul contracts, Akashic records, lives in between lives and the HONORING of others right to move onward to transition. Sending you love, Miss You Lady!
Dear Suzanne,
Thank you very much for your blog.
I feel like sometimes separated from the whole , When I see myself and my ego.And this sense of separation itself creates fear, and my device is most of the time to look myself back_ give time more , become more grounded by prayer, by going to a non_Noise natural places preferably mountains.
When I come back from these places giving myself time , I feel energized and will be comfortable with the routines of life , and I can smoothly embrace that I am connected with the whole.And no struggles with the uneasy vibration that I feel sometimes in a crowded restaurant or high music and something like that .
But still , I have to do charging _ grounding before the cycle of fear and separation starts.
Many thanks for the opportunity of sharing my view.
Best regards
Teddy
great work!
Thank you Suz for the great service you do sharing your thoughts such as these to all. We, indeed, need to view death and dying differently than we have up to now. It is still so spooky to so many when that need not be the case at all. Keep going! I’m loving it all!
Thanks Mary!❤️
Only a universal recognition of the oneness of us all (the you are I, I am you, we are one) along with solidarity between all peoples can make ours the just and peaceful world that our very survival depends upon Bingo. And the “universal recognition of the oneness of us all (the you are I, I am you, we are one) is the diametrical opposite of calling X or Y “my people. No matter how nice one”s intentions. http://essaywritekd.com/
Thank you Suzannne for all of the greaat information and advice! I have come a long way as far as dealing with the process of my own death. I still have times when I feel lost, but I am finding my balance with the help of your great input! Thank you for sharing, teaching and leading!!
Thank you for sharing too! I think the more we make this stuff “normal” the less it is scary!
Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective in these areas!!! death and dying is NOT talked about enough until it’s crisis mode. Unfortunately we have had some recent life circumstances surrounding death, shaking our family to its core… but fortunately my 4 year old has been talking about death and dying in a very nonchalant matter of fact kind of way. For that I am grateful. And for the work you do. Thanks a lot!
Thanks for sharing Tiffany; I know things have been tough for you and your family and I am holding love and light for you all – I am so glad your 4-year old is so light filled to assist; you are a beautiful family!
I was having an asthma attack that I couldn’t come out of so I went into my bathroom and I start doing a breathing treatment and I sit on a stool and I could feel a presence of a hand against my forehead and my shoulders were heavy as I did the treatment continued and then as soon as I did the treatment I turned off my machine and it seem to go away. Could it have been my spirit guide helping me?
It may have been and that is a great thing to experience!