As a culture, we don’t really embrace conversations about death and dying until we’re directly faced with it. Then, at that point, we’re usually filled with grief, fear, and even anger making conversation feel undesirable, uncomfortable, and down-right awkward.
My goal in writing more on death this year is to look at death and dying from an energetic perspective to hopefully shift some of these uncomfortable emotions and open the conversation.
As an energy healer who does a lot of hospice work, I see many patients whose beliefs about life end up complicating their death and dying journey. Part of my job is to help them shift these beliefs or energies so they’re able to transition smoothly back to Source.
But I believe if we all work on shifting these beliefs now, before our actual death, it will allow us to live healthier and happier lives while we’re here.
In the next few posts, I’ll look at the common beliefs or fears that complicate the dying journey and how we might shift these perspectives so we can LIVE (and die) well.
The Fight for Survival
One of the primary reasons we fear death is we feel we have no control over it, and to some extent this is true. While I believe our soul chooses to die (more on this in later posts), we’ve been programmed to fight for control over our own survival, which makes us fear our death.
But in reality, all of life is interrelated and holistic rather than separate, and if we would embrace this notion while living, we would also better experience it when dying.
The problem is we’ve been trained our entire lives to fight to survive. All the way down to our cell structure, our human programming screams a loud and clear directive to survive at all costs. This locks our human mind into the same vibrational single-cell consciousness that not only affects our lives but also our deaths.
Our survival instincts are rooted in both the primitive aspects of our programmed brains and anchored in the “root” Chakra located at the base of our spine—our survival center and home to our fight or flight narrative.
The fear-based information flow between our brains and our survival center ultimately keeps us cut off from one of the most vital reasons for life itself—oneness. If we understood oneness in life, we would embrace oneness in death.
Yet science, and even dogmatic religion, further confuses us with this notion of oneness. Science says there’s no universal one organizing force—only chance. And organized religion teaches us Source energy is an “inside/outside” or separated concept of us and God. We are trapped by our own thinking and programmed beliefs. It is us that corrupts the data within our minds and deep within our DNA by only allowing in a frequency that activates our most primitive components of fear of survival and separation.
This primal fear-frequency dominates our lives each day while we fight to survive our jobs, our relationships, our bank accounts, etc. We fear and fight our institutions, our financial systems, our governments, our medical and education systems. We continually choose this concept of fight to survive.
Understanding & Embracing Oneness
We have really not come far from our primal nomadic selves when it comes to fear of life and fighting for control to survive. What we don’t understand, however, is this is the exact programming that also locks us into a fear of death.
Every time we stop trusting in life and believe in our fears, we begin to co-create the vibration of chaos. When we encounter chaos, we command control—and control is fueled by fear.
Whenever that fear turns into anger it carries a destructive force for living as well as dying. Maybe it’s time to listen and learn from our BODY verses our programmed mind. The human emBODYment of Source is designed in such a perfect way to not only live but also to die. We just do not trust it, much less even know it.
Let’s learn a lesson from our actual human cells because this is where we can begin to embrace the magic of oneness. Cells are not selfish. They work not only with one another, but with the environment they are co-created within. We humans are a multi-celled consciousness.
What we experience as life is actually a human creation of this multi-dimensional consciousness. Just like the cells within our human form, our life is continually mutating and, as it mutates, it transcends toward our death.
The who and what you are, the whatever and wherever you are experiencing life is continually transcending. We are designed from the oneness of Source to experience the individuality of self and then return to the oneness once again. This is a totally natural and organic process, but we fear it because we do not trust it or understand it.
The great human block standing in our way of this understanding is the fear of losing our own uniqueness. And this is what I plan to cover in my next post on the energy of death and dying.
As I continue with this series, I encourage you to add your comments, concerns, or fears about death to get more of this conversation going.
Wonderful and powerful article Suzanne.
Thanks Lynn – I believe this is just such a powerful SUBJECT so I look forward to more conversation from readers!
How do we process the loss of those who are taken, by cancer, by guns, by hatred?
Barb
In my opinion Barb – that brings in the topics of Soul Contracts, honoring the Akashic Records and learning about the Micro/Macro relationships of the individual and the collective – ALL subjects that will be coming forward in Blogs to come on this subject – so please stay tuned for more.
This topic is an interesting one because it’s filled with confusion and, at the same time, hope .
I listen to my fear because it prevents me from crossing a street with oncoming cars or from jumping off a cliff . Fear and survival are what we know well so letting it go seems beyond our reach while living.
It’s just confusing to me.
Most survival instincts work in a FEAR vibration and honoring the vibration of LOVE instead is what this Series is all about – so hopefully in the Blogs to come – this will help shed some light on some of that confusion.
I can’t wait for more!
Great; and please feel free to chime in (ALL of you!) along the way with your thoughts, perspectives and stories – that is what makes community awesome as there is no one right or wrong in any subject – especially one such as death, and spirit!
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I can tell this is going to be an emotional series for me to read, but I really need it. I’m suddenly facing death more and more, and I want to understand it better and hopefully help in the process of letting go. You’re such a great writer, Suzanne. This is going to be amazing!
I do have one question – does this idea apply to animals? Or just humans?
Thanks for asking Amber – Yes, I will be including animals in the future
We are taught to fear so many things when we were children. It’s really a shame that death was one of them. As I embrace my gifts more I am losing that fear little by little. It’s hard to remember when the fear taps you on the shoulder and you fall back into old thinking,but it’s worth it. It’s not easy to re-write the script and to go against what society thinks is “normal” but I’m finding that my “new normal” is much more peaceful. I recently lost a good friend, and while I miss him and I’m sad I won’t hear his wonderful laugh in person, I know he’s still here (and, like magic, I can still hear his laugh in my head). It brings me comfort knowing that he’s just on the other side of the veil. Thanks Suzanne for wanting and needing to write about death. Can’t wait to read more!
I LOVE your NEW Normal!
Great blog Suzanne. I struggle to understand the concept of loss. I have never lost a loved one, I have always felt and know that my loved ones are always with me by design. None of us are getting out of here on our physical bodies, our spiritual essence will live forever in those who we have met along the way and in those who love us because of personal experiences shared in life. It’s like a friend who we haven’t seen in years yet when we reunite it’s as if we were together yesterday. Passing through death is just another phase in existence and choosing to do so in fear or peace is just another choice to make.
Thanks for your insight Mary! So awesome!! The goal of this series to is open up more folks to that kind of feeling, thinking and knowing, thanks for sharing yours.
I have owned a peace about death for quite some time. I am ready to go at any time…not that I am suicidal or eager to leave this dimension…but I am Not afraid. My strong belief in soul contracts and my heart’s knowledge that “We” will not die..only this current body.. has given me this Peace that I consider a blessing and a gift. It has eased my grief and as I see it, let me know that the “Circle of This Life” has been completed. On to future lessons and blessings. My wish is that those who are left behind will also know this peace and be able to move on with their contract knowing that I did my best to fulfill mine.
And Thank you Suzanne for taking on this subject that in my opinion very much needs to be talked about. Love to you.
Love to you back Diana – you are so special and I love how much you “know” about these things – and I am grateful for you sharing your wisdom!
Hugs to you ..one of my Great Teachers!
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I want to learn more about the feeling of Oneness. Would Oneness keep our souls from seeing/recognizing/feeling the presence of other souls/loved ones after death? Can a soul choose to stay in the feeling of Oneness or must souls continue to change or reincarnate/return to earth? In what sense do my Angels, cherubs and other realms of Heaven aid me in feeling and giving love in this world and the next? I enjoyed meeting you and listening to your presentations at the Palmer House gathering last fall and was inspired by your positive outlook and energy even though I’m still a scientifically sceptic yet open-minded inquirer. Sending love.
Hey Linda! Good to hear from you – I too enjoyed our meeting at the Palmer! I LOVE your scientifically skeptic questioning as it makes us all think more and that is always good!
Here are some thoughts: And as I always say – this is just MY take on things, so enjoy anything that resonates and toss what does not …..
I believe that the ONENESS is exactly what allows us to see, recognize, feel the presence of other-everything (not just souls, i.e., forces of nature, angelics, etc.) after death because it is ALL there. We are a part of everything in oneness because it is just aligning to consciousness energy and we are made up of that. I have experienced some of this union already as an alive person. The knowing of another IS the oneness – it is not a face, or a name it is a vibrational connection of knowing. I recently have been experiencing it even with things such as the “wind” and the “sun” lately. It feels like a coming home feeling of deep joy and reunion.
In my opinion – I do not believe there is anything that tells a soul what to do, when to do, or how to do. I believe the soul is the “essence” of the Source and it always chooses.
With regard to angels, cherubs and other realms of Heaven and how they aid us – again these “emBODYments” are other choices of co-creation from Source energy that are here to assist in the creation of the all. They are gatekeepers of different Planes of Existence and again the best way to understand a Plane of Consciousness or Existence is to look at it as a “point of perception rather than an actual place or thing”. A point of perceiving or emBODYing another level of consciousness. They choose to embody into that form (verses our human meat-one) to do their work – and that work in that Plane is to hold love, light and protection for humanity and the Planet. So I always believe appreciation, gratitude is key in creating that relationship to those benevolent beings. Just like us, they too can reside in-between lives, something to think about.
Hope some of that helps?!?
Dear Suzanne,
Thank You for your blog.
I feel also confused sometimes on the subject.But. some how I think I don’t fear death but the liabilities behind , like our unfinished or unpaved steps.
Are the core parts that we should try to our utmost with all the ego fights that we know.
And sometimes I feel , When I am out of balance the fight exist in my mind , between what is important to me and the social and religion laws.
waiting more info.,many thanks for the chances of this discussion.
With love.
Teddy
Thanks for the post – I think we ALL fight with our programmed mind; I just try to stay present in the FEEL verses the think.
I’m not sure if you’ve watched the Disney movie Coco yet, but it’s all about The Day Of The Dead holiday. It is a great movie! Lately I’ve asked a few coworker parents, with children less than 12, if they’ve watched it or if their children have- answer, no. I found it shocking and kind of sad because a lot of people are not letting their children watch the movie because it brings up the topic of death.
“I don’t want my four year old to ask me about death” “I don’t want to have to explain what that means”
“I don’t want to freak out my kid” etc.
So frustrating to me that they want to avoid the topic of death.
I also mentioned to a coworker recently (who has a 5 year old and zero pets) how I always had pets growing up and part of the reason was to learn about death and go through the emotions/process of it. She thought I was nuts! I told her how my first memory of death was my gerbal dying when I was in kindergarten, and I had to learn what that meant for myself. She thought it was crazy to have pets so young and said she will not get pets for years cuz she doesn’t want her child to feel sad.
To each their own.
This is a great series and so well timed! Thanks, Suzanne! As I have faced more death around me recently I’ve delved deeper into my beliefs and feelings about it. Many near death experiences shared tell us that the next plane is more beautiful than we can imagine, which only confirms what I’ve believed, but I’ve also always battled with knowing that those who move on are truly in love and peace and missing their presence in this life with me. However, I’ve also realized that I’m not afraid to die, so therefore I want to live this life to the fullest!